Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.

Rae Smith

Each tear is a poet, a healer, a teacher.

Rune Lazuli

Your test will become your testimony.

Joel Osteen

You have seen my descent. Now watch my rising.


The Scripture says in 1 Peter 4:12, “Don’t think it strange when you face fiery trials.” Sometimes you face challenges not because you’re doing something wrong but because you’re doing something right.

Joel Osteen

It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them. I was so preposterously serious in those days… Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me… So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair. That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling…

Aldous Huxley, Island

There won’t be a wall there anymore when you stop thinking that there is one.

Michael Neill on, February 6, 2014

… The Dalai Lama… said with a gentle smile, “Well, war is obsolete, you know.” Then, after a few moments, his face grave, he said, “Of course the mind can rationalize fighting back ... but the heart, the heart would never understand. Then you would be divided in yourself, the heart and the mind, and the war would be inside you.”

Dalai Lama

So great has been the endurance, so incredible the achievement, that, as long as the sun keeps a set course in heaven, it would be foolish to despair of the human race.

Ernest L Woodward

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way, when sorrows like sea billows roll; whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say, it is well, it is well with my soul.

Horatio Spafford

Pain pushes till the vision pulls.

We must understand that out of community and dialogue, the answers will arrive in their own time and way.

Bryant McGill

Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.


Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.

Eckhart Tolle

Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something helpless that wants help from us.

Rainer Maria Rilke

There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.

Washington Irving (1783-1859) American Writer

Losses aren’t cataclysmic if they teach the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing. A real tragedy? That’s the loss of the heart and soul themselves. If you’ve abandoned yourself in the effort to keep anyone or anything else, unlearn that pattern. Live your truth, losses be damned. Just like that, your heart and soul will return home.

Martha Beck

But we must not suffer over the suffering.

Alan Watts, Zen master

To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.

Pema Chodron

Pain does shape us and make us; the thing is to make it into something fertile and not just sink in the shit.

Reinekke Lengelle

The wound is the place where the Light enters you.


I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.

Dalai Lama

Where you stumble and fall, there you will find gold.

Joseph Campbell

I have had the privilege of losing everything.

Byron Katie

When you take the problems of the world on your shoulders, your body doesn’t feel good. It’s just that simple. Leave the problems of the world to the individual problem-makers of the world, and you be the joy-seeker that you are.

Abraham-Hicks, from the workshop in Philadelphia, PA on Monday, May 3rd, 2004

Pain pushes till the vision pulls.

Karen Drucker

When we face crises or disruptions in life, we can start looking for the epiphanies — for the answers and the gifts in our situations.

Elise Ballard

Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
because the rose came from the thorn
and the ruby came from a stone.


The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night’s sleep.

E Joseph Cossman

Forget the times of trouble, but not the truths they taught. Forget the days of sorrow, but not the strength they brought. Forget the storms you battled through beneath a heavy load – but not the light that led you safely down the unknown road.

Patience Strong

If you’re going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill

Every obstacle is a stepping stone. My good cannot be stopped.

Louise L Hay

Make fun of death. We are as dead as it gets, and we are fully aware of this joyous experience. We are with you every time you allow it. We are in every singing bird and in every joyful child. We are part of every delicious pulsing in your environment. We are not dead, and neither will you ever be! You will just get up, one day, and get out of the movie.

Abraham-Hicks, from the workshop in Boulder, CO on Saturday, June 11th, 2005

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.

Horace (65-8 BC) Roman Poet

May the stars carry your sadness away,
May the flowers fill your heart with beauty,
May hope forever wipe away your tears,
And, above all, may silence make you strong.

Chief Dan George

Turn your face toward the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.

Maori Proverb

In this life many demolitions are actually renovations.


The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.

Chinese proverb

If all of you, when you went home today, found your homes had blown away, you would be happier in the days and weeks and months to follow than if you went home and everything was normal – because it causes more focus of desire. There is all this fresh stuff pouring through you. It’s like opening spaces to new allowance. If every remnant of success was gone from you – still you stand as the culmination of all that you’ve learned. And we don’t mean learned in the sense that now you know how to do it again. We mean you have been the creation that has been in the process of being created, and here you stand as this clearer, more focused wanter and allower than you’ve ever been before. Which means, you can take your next breath of desire and step into your next place of allowing, and all that you ever had, and ten times more, can be in your experience immediately – when you accept that you are the asker and the receiver, and the letter-in of all of that.

Abraham-Hicks, from a workshop in Los Angeles, California, USA August 13, 2001

Conquering any difficulty always gives one a secret joy, for it means pushing back a boundary-line and adding to one’s liberty.

Henri Frederic Amiel

When we lose one blessing, another is often, most unexpectedly, given in its place.

CS Lewis

What is a bad thing anyway? A bad thing is something that is different than what I want. Who gets to decide what the bad thing is? Jerry and Esther watched the mother bird lay her eggs in the nest, and then the neighbor’s cat ate the baby bird. Esther said “bad cat!” And the cat said, “good bird!”

Abraham-Hicks, from the workshop in Los Angeles, CA on Saturday, July 24, 1999

Although pain is an aspect of everyday life and even spiritual growth, suffering is always optional. You can choose to grow through joy, peace and authentic success. There is a powerful lesson in suffering and that lesson is simply this. Stop doing it now. Suffering is a form of self-punishment. Suffering is an inner script that says life has to be hard and unpleasant. Suffering is not good for the soul. Joy is good for the soul.

Steve Nobel

Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.

Albert Einstein

Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another’s pain, life is not in vain.

Helen Keller

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents that would otherwise have lain dormant.

Horace (Roman poet) – see Horace: Image, Identity, and Audience

What ought one to say then as each hardship comes? I was practicing for this, I was training for this.

Epictetus (55-135 AD) Greek Philosopher

I have come to believe that the force behind all existence, which I, like many others, call God, is infinitely loving and infinitely giving, but at the same time a ruthless taskmaster, a teacher who will literally stop at nothing to raise our consciousness. One of the ways he seems to do this is by confronting us with certain experiences that so baffle our sensibilities, so destroy our old beliefs, that we are brought to our knees like the rubble of a building that has collapsed. At this crucial point, a kind of rebirth, a transformation, can and often does take place: it is the start of a new life.

from Living Well Naturally, by Anthony J Sattilaro

Dance in the body you have.

Agnes DeMille, author of Dance to the Piper and Promenade Home

You could cry, get worried or angry like any other normal human being, as long as you remembered that, up above, your spirit was laughing out loud at all those thorny situations.

from Veronika Decides to Die, by Paulo Coelho

What was hard to bear is sweet to remember.

Portuguese proverb – see A Dictionary of English and Portuguese Equivalent Proverbs (see other Portuguese proverbs)

Some things cannot be spoken or discovered until we have been stuck, incapacitated, or blown off course for a while. Plain sailing is pleasant, but you are not going to explore many unknown realms that way. We articulate the truth of a situation by carrying the whole experience in the voice and allowing the process to blossom of its own accord. Out of the cross-grain of experience appears a voice that not only sums up the process we have gone through, but allows the soul to recognize in its timbre, the color, texture, and complicated entanglements of being alive.

from The Heart Aroused: Poetry and the Preservation of the Soul in Corporate America, by David Whyte

When we accept tough jobs as a challenge to our ability and wade into them with joy and enthusiasm, miracles can happen.

Arland Gilbert

I wept because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet.

Ancient Persian saying – see One Thousand & One Persian-English Proverbs: Learning Language and Culture Through Commonly Used Sayings (see other Persian proverbs)

So whatever the situation, look at it like a classroom that your Higher Self chose to put you in. And remember that you did so because you had confidence you would succeed in the end. Even though danger can be daunting, all peril gives us an opportunity to build spiritual muscles.

Peace Mother Geeta Sacred Song

History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

BC Forbes

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

Martin Luther King (1929-1968) American Civil Rights Leader – see A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches of Martin Luther King, Jr and I Have a Dream ヨ 40th Anniversary Edition: Writings and Speeches That Changed the World

Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has many – not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.

Charles Dickens (1812-1870) English Novelist – see The Friendly Dickens: Being a Good-Natured Guide to the Art and Adventures of the Man Who Invented Scrooge and Charles Dickens Four Complete Novels (Great Expectations, Hard Times, A Christmas Carol, A Tale of Two Cities)

If you are going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill – see Never Give In: The Best of Winston Churchill's Speeches and the audio cassette Churchill in His Own Voice

You can’t take it with you – and that includes debt.

Annie Zalezsak

The sages do not consider that making no mistakes is a blessing. They believe, rather, that the great virtue of man lies in his ability to correct his mistakes and continually make a new man of himself.

Wang Yang-Ming

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.

Henry Ford (1863-1947) American Industrialist, author of My Life and Work 1922

The highest reward for man's toil is not what he gets for it but what he becomes by it.

John Ruskin (1819-1900). See Unto This Last and Other Writings (Penguin Classics).

Despite some of the horrors and barbarisms of modern life which appall and grieve us, life has - or has the potential of - such richness, joy and adventure as were unknown to our ancestors except in their dreams.

Arthur Holly Compton (1892-1962) American physicist. See Scientific Papers of Arthur Holly Compton: X-Ray and Other Studies and Biography - Compton, Arthur Holly (1892-1962).

Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything.

Mary Hemingway

One day in retrospect the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.

Sigmund Freud – see The Ego and the Id (The Standard Edition of the Complete Psychological Works of Sigmund Freud)

The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress.

Joseph Joubert (1754-1824) French philosopher. See The Notebooks of Joseph Joubert

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.

Horace (65-8 BC) Roman poet – see The Complete Odes and Satires of Horace

The unendurable is the beginning of the curve of joy.

Djuna Barnes, author of Nightwood

Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions.

Anthony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!

It is when the well's dry, that we know the worth of the water.

Benjamin Franklin – see The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin (Dover Thrift Editions)

Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions.

Anthony Robbins, see also Live with Passion! : Stategies for Creating a Compelling Future

There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.

Washington Irving (1783-1859) American writer – see The Complete Tales of Washington Irving

Man has never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.

Bernard Williams, English philosopher

One day in retrospect the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.

Sigmund Freud – see Civilization and Its Discontents

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

M Scott Peck

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.

Napolean Hill

Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.

Michael Jordan

The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.

Ernest Hemingway

Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.

Joseph Campbell

A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.

English proverb (see more English proverbs)

Sometimes a breakdown can be the beginning of a kind of breakthrough, a way of living in advance through a trauma that prepares you for a future of radical transformation.

Cherrie Moraga

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