No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work.

Mother Teresa (1910-1997) Albanian Missionary

This world is like a mountain. Your echo depends on you. If you scream good things, the world will give it back. If you scream bad things, the world will give it back. Even if someone says badly about you, speak well about him. Change your heart to change the world.

Shams Tabrizi

Re-examine all you have been told. Dismiss what insults your soul and your very flesh will become a great poem.

Walt Whitman

Don’t waste your time with explanations. People will hear what they want to hear.

Paulo Coelho

Exterior circumstances may present themselves in a wide variety of ways, but the way you respond and react to them is entirely under your control. What is happening is happening, but how you are experiencing what is happening is something You are making up.

Neale Donald Walsch

Don’t go the next 20 years allowing one negative comment to hold you back. You are not who people say you are. You are who God says you are.

Joel Osteen

Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow.


Instead of always harping on a man’s faults, tell him of his virtues. Try to pull him out of his rut of bad habits. Hold up to him his better self, his real self that can dare and do and win out.

Eleanor Porter (1868-1920) American Novelist

To “judge” is human. It is a precursor to DISCERNING between what is right FOR US and what is not.

Annie Zalezsak, September 25, 2013

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

André Gide, Autumn Leaves

The more one judges, the less one loves.

Honore de Balzac

Unless someone can look into the core of your heart, and see the degree of your passion, or look into the depths of your soul and see the extent of your will, then they have no business telling you what you can or cannot achieve. Because while they may know the odds, they do not know YOU. Nor do they know the power of your angels.

Sandra Kring

Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.


Let others vibrate as they vibrate and want the best for them. Never mind how they’re flowing to you. You concentrate on how you’re flowing. Because one who is connected to the Energy Stream is more powerful, more influential than a million who are not.

Abraham-Hicks, from the workshop in Portland, OR on Tuesday, June 10th, 1997

As we follow our spirit’s direction, its true intention for our life is often unknown. Therefore, do not judge anyone’s life or circumstances.

Annie Zalezsak (22 April 2012)

If everybody’s thinking the same thing, then nobody’s thinking.

George S Patton

Just because someone seems to have more certainty, doesn’t mean they’re right.

Anthony Robbins

Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.

don Miguel Ruiz

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

Steve Jobs

If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgment of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now.

Marcus Aurelius

There are no facts, only interpretations.

Friedrich Nietzsche

The optimist is right. The pessimist is right. The one differs from the other as the light from the dark. Yet both are right. Each is right from his own particular point of view, and this point of view is the determining factor in the life of each. It determines as to whether it is a life of power or impotence, of peace or of pain, of success or of failure.

Ralph Waldo Trine in the prelude of his book In Tune with the Infinite

We tend to judge others by their behaviour and ourselves by our intentions.

Albert F Schlieder

Innovative people have always been in high demand. Help those around you to develop that “never-say-die” attitude by developing it yourself. Make a decision, today, to outlaw complaining, whining and negative thinking in your own personality. And, a word of caution: if and when you are criticized for being so positive or as some call it, “unrealistic,” you will know you are on the right track.

Bob Proctor

I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think.


Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction – but it does not affect you unless you push against them.

Abraham-Hicks, from the workshop in Orlando, FL on Saturday, February 21, 1998

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes.

Marcel Proust

Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.


Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. That million people pushing against you are affecting their millions of vibrations. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction, but it does not affect you unless you push against them.

Abraham-Hicks, from a workshop in Orlando, Florida on February 21, 1998

… it would be interesting to find out what goes on in that moment when someone looks at you and draws all sorts of conclusions.

Malcolm Gladwell

Pain is caused by judgement.

Annie Zalezsak

We should not permit tolerance to degenerate into indifference.

Margaret Chase Smith

So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself.

from Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch

Albert Einstein once reported, “Great spirits have always encountered voilent opposition from mediocre minds.” If you want to achieve your own greatness, to climb your own mountains, you’ll have to use yourself as your first and last consultant.

from Pulling Your Own Strings by Wayne Dyer (about Wayne Dyer)

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer and humorist

Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves.

Gene Fowler

Accepting what others see as your strengths is crucial to your continued growth. Compliments are a gift. They are an opportunity for you and another person to connect in a powerful, positive way. How did you handle the last compliment directed at you? Did you accept it?

from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate, by Rhonda Britten

We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882)

There would be very little to dislike in other people if we refused to bring to them all of our own judgements and petty grievances.

from Teach Only Love by Gerald G Jampolsky

You will find it easier to accept contrary views, knowing that you are not defined by anything or anyone external to yourself.

from You’ll See It When You Believe It by Wayne Dyer (about Wayne Dyer)

Remember, it is not the snake bite that kills, but the venom which circulates afterwards that is fatal. Do not let the snake bite of another person release any venom inside of you. You can control its entry and you are responsible for every thought in your mind.

from Megaliving!, by Robin S Sharma (see works by Robin S Sharma)

People are not their behaviors.

from Awaken the Giant Within, by Anthony Robbins (see more works by Anthony Robbins)

What’s more important - your goal, or others’ opinions of your goal?

from Do It! Let’s Get Off Our Buts by John-Roger and Peter McWilliams

Refuse to be outer focused. That means your life is decided by reactions to the outside world versus inner focused where intuition and intention are the guiding forces determining your future.

Using the words ‘they think’ or ‘they say’ puts power into the hands of individuals outside of your control.

Instead say what do ‘I think’.

from Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten (about Rhonda Britten)

In the past, your self-image was formed by what you believed others thought of you. The essential question you asked about any aspect of your body was, “What thought will the person who looks at me hold in his mind?” And you viewed your body through what you imagined the contents of his mind to be. Rarely did you ask, “What thought do I keep in my mind?” because you did not believe that this question related to how lovely you felt. But you are lovely, and your attempts to second-guess what others think and your efforts to change their minds only cause you to doubt yourself. Do not believe you must constantly tinker with your body, its appearance, its standing, or its health, in order to change what you think you are. You will know the beauty of simple giving when you no longer allow your thoughts to curve back at you. To think gentle thoughts about yourself, you need only think gently.

from A Book of Games, by Hugh Prather

The best leaders collect information widely, listen to everybody, and then decide by themselves.

Edwin Bearss, Civil War historian

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, "I have nothing to say to that." The world cries, "Give me your agreement or your disagreement but whatever you do, don't ignore me!"

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have higher things to think about and darkness's anguish is not your concern. Every "success" darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, "I have nothing to say to that!"

As The Daily Guru said once, "The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance." Work with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very insignificant until you react to them.

The Daily Guru

Listen to others as if they are telling you the truth, ask questions when you aren't clear, and allow others the room to have different feelings than you. No more assigning hidden motives, prejudging and cutting people off before separating fact from fiction.

from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate by Rhonda Britten (about Rhonda Britten)

Facts come from heaven, opinions come from earth. Think about it!!!

The Daily Guru

A man met the Buddha on the street one day and began to call him mean and ugly names. Buddha listened quietly and thoughtfully until the man ran out of epithets, and had to pause for breath.

"If you offer something to a man and he refuses it, to whom does it belong?" asked Buddha.

The spiteful man replied, "It belongs, I suppose, to the one who offered it."

Then Buddha said, "The abuse and vile names you offer me, I refuse to accept."

The man turned and walked away."

Caring what others think about us is normal. The desire to belong is basic to human nature. But in order to feel like you truly belong, you must accept yourself for who you are. This is critical to Fearless Living.

from Fearless Loving: 8 Simple Truths That Will Change the Way You Date, Mate and Relate by Rhonda Britten (about Rhonda Britten)

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by the dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy course; who at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat.

Theodore Roosevelt

It is always easier to hear an insult and not retaliate than have the courage to fight back against someone stronger than yourself; we can always say we’re not hurt by the stones others throw at us, and it’s only at night - when we’re alone and our wife or our husband or our school friend is asleep - that we can silently grieve over our own cowardice.

from The Devil and Miss Prym by Paulo Coelho

Nothing will ever be attempted, if all possible objections must first be overcome.

Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English author

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.

Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) American publisher

We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.

Anais Nin

The influence of each human being on others in this life is a kind of immortality.

John Quincy Adams

The nobler sort of man emphasizes the good qualities in others, and does not accentuate the bad. The inferior does the reverse.

Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese philosopher

You are in a partnership with all other human beings, not a contest to be judged better than some and worse than others.

Wayne Dyer (about Wayne Dyer)

No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work.

Mother Teresa (1910-1997) Albanian missionary

Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.

Norman Vincent Peale

If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears.

Glenn Clark

Conclusions and perspectives we share about people, or any situation we encounter tell others as much about us as they do what we are describing. What we notice must have a point of resonance within us or we wouldn't notice it at all. We don't have to abandon our points
of view to expand our understanding. When we limit our perspectives, we limit our opportunities to be all that we are intended to be.

Gail Pursell Elliott, The Dignity and Respect Lady

Once the game is over, the king, queen and the pawn go back into the same box.

Italian proverb (see more Italian proverbs)

We cling to our own point of view, as though everything depended on it. Yet our opinions have no permanence; like autumn and winter, they gradually pass away.

Chuang Tzu

Have compassion for everyone you meet,
even if they don't want it.
What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism
is always a sign of things no ears have heard,
no eyes have seen.
You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets
the bone.

Miller Williams

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